Saturday, September 5, 2009

The Drive-Thru

I enjoyed looking back in time rereading the articles I wrote when I was turning fifty. Most of you are much younger than I am so perhaps you can relate to some of what is in these posts. Like a parent who has watched his or her kid leave home years earlier, and assures me there is life after the kids have left, I can say to you, turning fifty really isn't that bad. It is actually quite funny in a strange sort of way. I hope I get you to a least giggle a bit. I laughed all the way to my fiftieth birthday. I still laugh when I look down and see my middle age bulge or look in the mirror (which I try not to do very often) and see my sagging eye-lids. I can't believe I actually pull the skin of my forehead up to see how I would look with a face lift. I remember my mother doing this and thinking she was actually out of her mind. I will never have a face lift, not because I wouldn't love to look better, but I am just too afraid of doctors. If I wasn't I would be the first in line for a peal or a lift or a tuck. Instead I just pretend that I want to grow old gracefully. It's fear that stops me dead in my tracks. So, if you ever see me looking rested and younger know that I miraculously got over my fear of Doctors and am pulled, peeled, and lifted.

Labor Day: September, 2007

When I was younger I used to be able to put on whatever I left on the chair from the night before, throw a brush through my hair and look half way presentable. Much to my dislike, those days are gone. Unfortunately, old habits are hard to break, and I am a creature of habit. So, once again I threw on my old black pants from four years ago, an orange tee shirt with holes from wear around the seam, a pair of flip flops and out the door I ran. For better or for worse, I rarely look in a mirror.

Today I should have.

I have always admired those aging natural beauties. Hoped to be just like them when my time came. But much to my chagrin two problems arise. Problem #1: I don’t look anything like an aging beauty. I look more like a tired, middle-aged suburbanite who has spent too much time in the sun. Problem #2: This issue has come up way too soon.

I should go to the plastic surgeon for a laser peel or dermabrasion or whatever is trendy this week…but in all honesty I am just too scared. I don’t like to go to doctors, they terrify me. As I age, I know going to the doctor more and more often will be inevitable, but I dread this with every fiber left in my body. So what are my options? Make-up.

I actually bought some last week. But of course today, I forgot to use it. I have to remember the base and blush, lipstick and mascara. I should have been born a boy.

Instead I have on my sunglasses to hide me from the world.

Of course, it is right after Labor Day and everyone is back in town. All the other Moms sport cute hairdos, adorable tennis gear, or sophisticated slacks with matching shoes and handbags. Every place I stop I run into someone I know. I don’t think much of this until I happened to catch a glance of myself in the mirror. Holy shit. I look like shit. Like old shit. Even worse, like old, tired shit. There is nothing natural about my beauty. My hair needs to be colored and cut. My outfit is an embarrassment. Cute ran out many years ago and I am left with something from one of my father’s old horror films.

I promise myself to try harder.

So here lies the dilemma. I am starving and want to go to the cute little Boulange in Mill Valley for a bite to eat, but I am bound to run into people I know. For the first time in my life, I actually chickened out. I have always enjoyed eating alone. But today I couldn’t for fear of being seen by one of my well-put together acquaintances. Even those jocks that I know, who have just run ten miles look better than me.

So I do what every middle-aged starving woman would do. I drove right into the drive-thru at McDonalds and grabbed myself a cheeseburger.

I don’t regret the calories. I don’t even regret the lack of nutrition. What I regret is not being able to throw on my oldest and ugliest clothing and still manage to look cute.

Cute takes work now and I may not be up to the challenge.

But then again, who’s really looking at me anyway?


  1. I am loving your blog and so appreciating your honesty and eloquence in articulating my emotions these days. Always know that I will meet you anytime at Boulange no matter how shlumpy you appear on the outside, because you have to remember that you are a beautiful, young girl on the inside. My mom, forever the gorgeous, glamour girl, always knew that she would get that facelift upon signs of losing it. Well, at 80, she still looks in the mirror and sees a hot chick. She still sashays around the pool in high heel mules and red lipstick. My sister and I just have to laugh. But she is a great role model because she never really needed that facelift after all. Have a nice Labor Day Wekend!! And check out my next project as I am blogging as well:
    You do not need it but feel free to pass it on to friends who might.

  2. Just remember that youth is wasted on the young. Your beauty shines through from within. Now you have the wisdom to recognize that. Watch out 50s, here we come.